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Nearly all of the types of abuse
that female victims go through

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is exactly the same as male victims.

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And it's a really important point to make.

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Some of the barriers that male victims
of domestic violence have is, firstly,

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they don't even recognize that they are
a victim of domestic violence.

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The other barriers

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are a real undermining their sense
of what it means to be a man.

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So a level of stigma, shame
and embarrassment,

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loss of independence can be made worse
by physical differences.

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If the perpetrator
is a woman, for example.

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And it really undermines
their sense masculinity,

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they fear not being believed, fear
not being taken seriously,

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and they don't know who to turn to
or talk to.

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And also really fearing those consequences
of what will happen to them

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and perhaps any children they have
if they actually leave?

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And that's because they are a male.

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It is clear that Paul is living in fear.

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Fear of consequences
of his partner's actions,

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fear of what other people will do
if they find out. The fear of the

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consequences
of actually leaving that relationship.

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It's constant
and he doesn't know what to do.

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This is something he would
have been going through for years

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and years and years,
and it's gradually chipping away.

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In terms of his partner's motivation,

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it's like all abusive people
in that situation.

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She simply wants to have complete

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control and power over him.

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She wants to take away his identity.

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She wants to take away his self-worth

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and also his individuality.

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Things have really changed now.

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Recognising that everybody and everyone

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can be a victim of domestic
violence and sexual violence.

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And that's really helped
to shift the picture

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so that we are now
seeing better recognition of men.

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But also, importantly, we seeing far more men

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coming forward to speak to employers,

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to speak to specialist organisations,
reaching out for support.